Anything you are not free to say "no" to, you are unable to say "yes" to.
You can't really choose what you are not free to reject.
This is worth remembering if you really are intent on moving away from parental and managerial or even educational models that don't depend on some form of tyranny.
Is it any wonder that one of the first phrases that toddlers learn is "No!"? This is the beginning of taking control over defining self rather than capitulating to others who would gladly define you.